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Jun 16

Improving Your Parenting to Remove Supervised Visits

When parents who are divorced or separated are in situations where violence or child abuse could potentially occur then one or both parents could be order to supervised visitation with the child(ren) in question.  If there is a custodial parent and the non-custodial parent has supervised visits, these can be changed back to non-supervised visitations when the parent has successfully proven that they are not a danger to the child.

 Reasons Visitations Are Supervised

The first thing that you should think about is why you have supervised visitation in the first place.  There are many different reasons or situations that might call for visitations to be supervised.

 Parenting Skills

One of the biggest reasons for supervised visitation is that parents are lacking the parenting skills necessary to care for a child.  If your supervised visits are ordered for improvement in parenting skills, then you will have to prove that you have improved your parenting skills in order to have them changed to unsupervised.  One thing that you can do is consider enrolling in a court approved parenting class.  You can even ask the court for recommendations on where to start.

 Addiction Issues

There are many different types of addictions.  Even if you are addicted to something that is legal like prescription drugs or alcohol, you can still lose your right to see your children without supervision.  The first step to work towards getting your children back with normal visitation is stop all drug and alcohol use.  Even if something is a not a problem for you, you should attempt to have a clean system when you are fighting for your kids.  Another thing that you can do is check yourself into a rehabilitation program.  This is going to help you to ensure that you are monitored and that you are being given skills that you need to stay clean.  Finally, joining AA or NA will help you to have a support system that you can prove when you are fighting for your children.

 Anger or Aggression Issues and Abuse

If you have had trouble controlling your anger or if you have been accused of abuse, you might see your rights to your children subject to supervision.  This is to protect your children in case you would lose your temper.  If you want to make sure that you can see your children again on your own terms, then there are some steps that you can take.  The first is that you can enroll in an anger management class and/or anger management counseling.  Successfully completing one or both of these can really help your case.  Another thing that you can do is have a psychological evaluation done.  Doing these can help you to willing take care of things that might otherwise be problematic.

 When You Haven’t Seen the Child

There are a few cases where a parent might not be able to be in their child’s life for a certain period of time.  It is in the best interest of the child for the first visits between this parent to be supervised.  If the parent proves that they can be trusted and shows that they want to be actively involved with a child, then it is only a matter of time until the visits are unsupervised.

 When Sexual Abuse is Suspected

If sexual abuse has occurred and the parent has been found to be guilty then unsupervised visitation is not ever likely.  In the case that allegations have been made against a parent that have been proven to be false, that parent can fight for unsupervised visits.

The main thing that you should remember when it comes to trying to have unsupervised visits with your child is that you have to stay calm.  Regardless of what your ex does or says, you have to make sure that you are cool and collected the entire time.  This can be much harder than you think.  Remember that your ex knows just how to push your buttons, so make sure that you are thinking through each response before you answer.  Be sure to keep a parenting log so you notate any new developments in case you chose to go back to court in the future to modify your court order.