Jul 16

Using Email to Create a Custody Log for Record Keeping

One of the most crucial pieces of evidence that you can use in court is a parenting log, also called a custody log.  This log will show times that custodial and non-custodial parents have children as well as when they do not take advantage of their time with the children.    There are many things that you should note in a custody journal and keeping one through email is a great way to easily be able to update the journal through texts or emails at the time of drop offs or pick-ups.

 How to Use Email to Create a Custody Log

The first thing that you will want to do if you are going to use email as a custody log is create a new email account that is only used for this purpose.  Each time that your child is picked up or dropped off with the other parent, make sure that you send an email to the account with a text message.  This is simple and easy and gives you a record that is time and date stamped.

Another thing that you will want to do is make notes in the texts or actually send emails if you need longer notes for different things that occur during times that your child’s other parent has them.  Make note of your child’s behavior, their moods, and the things that they say in the email.  You should also be sure to point out when the other parent is late with pick-ups or drop offs.  You can make note of when they were supposed to pick up and missed visits or canceled them.  It’s also a great way to keep track of communication about trading visits or working something out.  You can simply copy and paste your ex’s texts or take screen shots of them and email these to the account.  This way you always have the ability to look something up when you need to.

In addition to these things, you can keep record of communication that you have with the other parent, information about medical appointments or school issues, and even help keep track of milestones and developments for your child.  In addition, make sure that you keep track of issues that you want to discuss with your child’s other parent or information that you want to make sure that you relate to them.  You can even have the other parent create their own journal email so that you can email these issues back and forth between the two of you with a clear record of when you are notifying them and what they choose to do with said information.

This email is a great way to keep track of everything that you want to remember about your child.  It is also a clear record that you can use in court if questions arise with how one of you are taking care of your child or communicating with one another.  If you have a clear email chain, the other parent cannot deny receiving important information or being told about something that was important.

 How the Email Journal Can Be Used in Court

It is easy to print emails.  One of the things that you can do before you go to court is print all of the emails that you have saved as well as all of the information that was shared between the two parents.  This is a great way to keep details of everything that you have been involved in.

 Reasons You Should Maintain Custody Journal

If disputes occur in court, as they often do, having a journal that is time stamped and has all of the information in it can help to prove that what you are saying is true.  You can’t change the time on an email to suit your needs so it’s important that you are sending these emails as they occur.  In addition, it can help you to show that you are doing the things that you agreed to and whether or not the child’s time with the other parent is interfering with their behaviors or education in any way.  In addition, it can help you to provide information that can help set up a more appropriate child custody schedule should things need to be changed.

Plus, if you are recording important milestones, information about school and activities, or other information that needs to be shared with your child’s other parents then it is going to help to show that you are following through with your effort to provide good communication.   Your ex won’t be able to deny that they did certain things or that they were not notified of something if you have a clear record that shows that they were.  Having a journal also helps give you peace of mind that you are not going to have to provide information or proof to a judge in the future should there be any issues, everything will be contained in one neat and tidy place that is easy for your to access.

Jul 16

Time to Go to Court – Get Your Ducks in a Row

Court is not all it’s cracked up to be. It’s long. It’s expensive. It’s stressful. And sometimes, it can even be boring.

If you have to go to court, you need to prepare yourself. After all, court is expensive. And the longer it takes for your case to finalize, the more money you will end up spending. So in order for you to create a smooth trial, the following tips will help you get your ducks in a row.

 Talk openly and honestly with your lawyer.

The very first thing you need to do is talk openly and honestly with your lawyer. Be upfront about everything they need to know regarding the case. For example, if you are in divorce court and you had an affair, tell your lawyer. If you don’t tell him, and this information comes out later, it will only prolong the trial. The more honest information you can share with your lawyer up front, the better it will be for you in the long run. After all, it’s this information your lawyer is going to use to help you, so give him the information he needs to make the best plays.

You should also talk with your lawyer about how he believes the trial will go. This will help you mentally prepare for what’s ahead, and it will help you learn what information you may need to gather in order to help the case move quickly.

Make copies of important documents.

Every aspect of your history is going to come up during the proceeding, so do your own homework and make copies of important documents. This can include anything from bank statements to birth certificates and everything in between.

If you are in a divorce trial and you’re trying to arrange custody of your children, try to find any document that proves your qualifications as a parent. The more documents you have to prove your side, the better your case will be.

 Create an inventory of your assets.

If you are going through a divorce, it’s important you take inventory of your assets. This includes taking photographs of your assets as well as the estimated value of each. This will allow your lawyer as well as the judge to have accurate information that needs to be distributed between you and your spouse. In some cases, it may even be ideal for you to get real appraisals on items to prove their value.

 Be on your best behavior.

Going to court can be stressful, but no matter what happens, it’s important you remain on your best behavior. Show up early. Wear nice, clean clothes. Be polite to the judge. And never let your emotions get the best of you. If you act out in any way, it could have a negative impact on the outcome of the proceedings, and you don’t want an error in judgment to define your entire future.