Sep 16

How to Prepare to Be a Parent When You’re Not Yet an Adult

Becoming a parent is hard work and a major responsibility for anyone.  If you are a teenager and are becoming a parent, there are many things that you should realize.  For someone who has been used to caring only for themselves and also has had someone else caring for them, it can be a huge shock when you are not only responsible for yourself but another life as well.

 Realize Life is About to Change

Having a baby can be a joyous time in your life but there are also many ways that your life changes.  It is full of the miracle of childbirth and the fact that you are bringing a human life into this world.  It can also be a very challenging time where you might feel a struggle between what you want to do and what you have to do.  As soon as you become a parent, you are no longer just concerned about yourself.  You now have to be concerned about someone else too.  Once you become a parent, you are not going to be able to spend as much time as you might have in the past with your friends.

You are also going to have to realize that having a baby costs a lot of money.  You will likely have to make sacrifices of the things that you want, in order to provide your child with the things that he or she needs.  Making sure that you have a good support system and people to talk to is very important as you go down the path to become a parent.

 Remember to Take Care of Yourself

 One of the biggest mistakes that new parents make is that they often forget to take care of themselves.  Instead, they end up struggling both emotionally and physically because they do not give themselves what they need in order to be a good parent.  You will need the support of others so that you can ensure that your child is best taken care of.  No one can be a successful parent completely on their own.  If you try, you will likely end up with emotional issues that could end up harming both yourself and the child over the long term.

You will need to be prepared to be on your toes.  You will want to be able to eat healthy, work out, and even take some time to relax so that you can ensure that you have everything that your baby needs.  Many young parents try to keep up with their peers by not sleeping when the baby does and this can lead to health problems that are both physical and emotional.  Make sure that you are putting your baby and yourself before anyone or anything else.

Tips for New Parents

Have Someone to Talk To

All new parents need someone that they can talk to.  As a teen parent, this is especially important.  Make sure that you can find someone to trust when the going gets tough.  It is a good idea for this person to be a parent as many non-parents will not understand some of the struggles and issues that you will face.  If you know another young parent in the same situation as yourself, you might even find that the two of you can lean on each other for support and well-being.

Don’t Forget What You Enjoy

While you might not be able to go out as often as you want to, you still have to remember to do the things that you enjoy.  Find ways to do these things at home.  If you don’t enjoy anything that you can do at home, then look for a new hobby or passion that you can do from home.  Having something to do that will make you happy, can help you to still feel like yourself and make some me time, even if that me time is just during one of your new baby’s naps.

Rest When You Can

It is very important to remember that you cannot do it all.  No one can.  Even if it looks like someone is doing it all, remember that looks can often be deceiving.  Taking time to rest is very important for a new parent.  One good rule of thumb is to take naps when your baby takes napes.  If you absolutely must do something during nap times, try to make sure that you are napping at least half of the time when your baby is napping.

 Take Some “Me” Time

While you will not want to leave your baby all of the time, it is important that you do take some “me” time and leave your baby every once in a while.  It is a good idea to make sure that you are doing something alone with friends or even by yourself at least one time per month.  Look for a responsible babysitter who you can trust and ask them to help you schedule some me time when they can look after your little one.

Play Time

Regardless of how young your baby is, you can have some fun and enjoy play time together.  If you are unsure of appropriate play for different ages, make sure that you read some books or even ask your pediatrician for advice.  There are lots of fun things that you can do with your baby from the time that they are born.  Baby swimming lessons, playing at the park, walking around the neighborhood, drawing/painting/doing crafts, or even joining a play group can be fun for both you and your baby.

Connect with Other Parents

Another thing that you should be doing is making sure that you connect with other parents.  There are mommy groups, play groups, and more that you can look into joining in any community.  Ask friends and family members if they know of groups or do a quick search online for the area in which you live.  Doing this can help you to find a group of like-minded moms who you can get advice from and have fun together with your little ones.

 Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help

Every new parent needs help, even those who are older.  Do not worry that as a teen mom you are going to be judged.  Talk to those who you trust and ask for help when you need it.  Doing this will help you to have healthier interactions with your little one as well as healthier emotions for yourself.