Divorce is getting more and more common in an era where families do not have to stay together to be able to afford the basic functions in life and where divorcee’s are not looked down upon for not staying together. However, it is still stressful and hard for people of any age to deal with. To make this transition as easy as possible for everyone involved, particularly the kids, sleep is key. Here’s a few reasons that the kid in your life might not be getting enough sleep during this period of their life.
Divorce is hard on every member of the family, from the parents who are separating to even the smallest of children. Whether they are dealing with their parents fighting or just dealing with the changes in their lives, it adds stress to any child’s life.
Stress is a huge problem for anyone who is going through a hard time, and it will make anyone have trouble sleeping. Kids don’t have the stress coping mechanisms that adults have built up over their lives, or the ability to recognize that the stress is what the problem is for them. In addition, lack of sleep causes everyone to be less able to handle even the most minor of stressors in their lives, making everything seem a whole lot harder to deal with.
Change of Routine
Kids thrive on routines. Divorce is, by design, disruption of the routines that they thrive on. Luckily, there is an easy way for parents going through divorce to make this change easier on their kids. If you can keep as much of their routine intact as possible no matter where they’re spending their days, they will sleep better in the long run.
This is especially important when it comes to bedtime. Bedtime routines help to train the brain into recognizing when it is time for it to produce melatonin and start getting sleepy. It also serves as time for parents to bond with their children, especially when they are younger. Kids will grow up and remember the time that their parents spent reading to them at night or telling them silly stories to help them relax.
Changing Sleep Space
Parts of these changes for kids of all ages can be both good and bad, particularly the changing of their sleep space. When one parent moves out, kids usually get new beds and bedrooms. This book can lead them to forget some of the things that they were supposed to bring back to the other parent’s house, but great that they get a new mattress or crib, especially if they are sleeping on a hand-me-down. Mattresses should be replaced every eight years to be as supportive as possible for the people sleeping on them – even when those people are significantly smaller than their parents.
If you notice that a child in your life is not getting enough sleep on a regular basis, it might be worth talking to a doctor or a therapist to see if there is an underlying issue that you can work with to find the underlying problem.