When you say the word “divorce”, the first thing that likely pops in your head is “stressful”. That’s because for most people, the act of divorce is one of the most stressful situations you’ll go through. The court system can make things almost impossible to move forward, a bitter ex could also be doing what they can to make it harder, and if you have kids during divorce, the stress levels go up even higher. However, just because divorce is stressful doesn’t mean you need to let it get the best of you. Instead, you need to find ways to better manage your stress so that you can positively move forward and see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Talk to someone.
The worst thing you can do when feeling stressed is to bottle it all up inside you. By doing this, you’ll simply explode one day, and you could end up lashing out on someone you care deeply for. Instead, make sure that you have someone to talk to during the divorce, whether it’s a friend, relative or even a professional therapist. Getting your feelings out there can be enough to let you feel better and understand you’re not alone.
Ask for help.
When you were married, you were a team. Now, you’re alone, and you’re trying to handle it all by yourself. This can often be stressful, but while you may have a sense of pride, you should never try to tackle everything yourself if it’s simply impossible. If you need help around your house, or with your kid, or even at work, ask for it. People understand you have a lot on your plate and nobody expects you to do everything on your own.
Help the situation.
Sometimes your stress can come directly from the divorce, and this could be all because of you. For instance, if you are the reason why the divorce is taking so long to go through or if you are being stubborn about custody arrangements or other issues, it could be contributing to your stress levels. Be sure you’re being rationale about the things you want and what’s necessary for you to be happy, and then see if you need to adjust the way you’re handling the divorce.
Find a stress reliever.
While talking to people and asking for help can be a great way to relieve stress, you should also consider other options as well, such as doing some type of physical activity. Taking a run, exercising, or exerting yourself in some physical way can help you relieve the stress that’s pent up inside you. Another way is to help yourself relax by getting a massage or taking a spa day. If you can find something you like to do that helps relieve stress, then you can find yourself rising above.
Sometimes if things in your life are chaotic, it can lead to more stress during the divorce. Instead, do whatever you can to stay organized. For instance, be sure to keep all legal paperwork in one location so you can reference it when you need to. It’s also a good idea to keep your schedule (and your child’s schedule if you have one) together so you know where you have to be and when, as well as when your child will be with your ex. Having some form of organization can help you keep from letting the little things get to you.
Divorce adds a lot of stress to your life, but once it’s done and finalized, you will be able to move on and seek out a new adventure.