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Nov 18

3 Ways Divorce Can Affect A Child’s Ability to Sleep

Divorce is getting more and more common in an era where families do not have to stay together to be able to afford the basic functions in life and where divorcee’s are not looked down upon for not staying together. However, it is still stressful and hard for people of any age to deal with. To make this transition as easy as possible for everyone involved, particularly the kids, sleep is key. Here’s a few reasons that the kid in your life might not be getting enough sleep during this period of their life.

Stress

Divorce is hard on every member of the family, from the parents who are separating to even the smallest of children. Whether they are dealing with their parents fighting or just dealing with the changes in their lives, it adds stress to any child’s life.

Stress is a huge problem for anyone who is going through a hard time, and it will make anyone have trouble sleeping. Kids don’t have the stress coping mechanisms that adults have built up over their lives, or the ability to recognize that the stress is what the problem is for them. In addition, lack of sleep causes everyone to be less able to handle even the most minor of stressors in their lives, making everything seem a whole lot harder to deal with.

 

Change of Routine

Kids thrive on routines. Divorce is, by design, disruption of the routines that they thrive on. Luckily, there is an easy way for parents going through divorce to make this change easier on their kids. If you can keep as much of their routine intact as possible no matter where they’re spending their days, they will sleep better in the long run.

This is especially important when it comes to bedtime. Bedtime routines help to train the brain into recognizing when it is time for it to produce melatonin and start getting sleepy. It also serves as time for parents to bond with their children, especially when they are younger. Kids will grow up and remember the time that their parents spent reading to them at night or telling them silly stories to help them relax.

 

Changing Sleep Space

Parts of these changes for kids of all ages can be both good and bad, particularly the changing of their sleep space. When one parent moves out, kids usually get new beds and bedrooms. This book can lead them to forget some of the things that they were supposed to bring back to the other parent’s house, but great that they get a new mattress or crib, especially if they are sleeping on a hand-me-down. Mattresses should be replaced every eight years to be as supportive as possible for the people sleeping on them – even when those people are significantly smaller than their parents.

If you notice that a child in your life is not getting enough sleep on a regular basis, it might be worth talking to a doctor or a therapist to see if there is an underlying issue that you can work with to find the underlying problem.


26
Oct 18

The Financial Woes of Divorce

Finances During a Divorce

Finances During a Divorce

There’s a lot involved with getting divorced, and the second biggest question on people’s minds when it comes to divorce is “How much is divorce going to cost?” (The first question is usually about the children, if there are some.) The cost of a divorce will vary on a variety of factors, but in most cases, you can count on divorce to cost thousands of dollars before its finalized. If you want to have a general idea of the cost of divorce, here are the financial woes you need to take into consideration.

Mediation/Attorney Fees

In most divorce cases, couples either hire divorce attorneys or they opt for mediation. Of the two, mediation is often the least expensive option, but you will still need to pay for it. Divorce attorneys vary in price too, so you’ll want to make sure you’re making the right decision when it comes to finding the right one to represent you.

Documents/Paperwork

Aside from the cost of attorneys or mediators, you’ll also have document and paperwork fees that will be filed with the courts. Some lawyers will roll this fee into their own expenses while others will make you pay for this cost separately. There’s no right or wrong way to go about paying for them, but it’s something you’ll want to keep in mind when determining your budget.

Filing Fees

Once your divorce has been approved by the courts, you’ll also notice filing fees, which happen to make your divorce legal. Again, the way this cost works will depend on your lawyer, but it’s important to ask questions about this upfront so you’re not hit with a surprise bill when it’s all over.

Child Support/Alimony

In some instances, one parent will be required to pay child support and/or alimony to the other parent. The cost of this will depend on the state you live in and the number of children you have, but if you’re required to pay child support or alimony, you’ll need to factor this into your financial plan. After all, failing to pay child support can keep you from obtaining a passport or force you to serve jail time.

Division of Property

During your divorce, there will be a division of property between you and your ex. This again will be determined by the laws and the court systems in your state. In most cases, the courts decide what is considered a marital asset and what is considered pre-marriage individual property, and then the division of assets will fall into play after this has been determined.

Housing

Some married couples opt to sell their house and split the profit (or loss) of the house. In some cases, one person will buy the other person out of the house. There are plenty of options, but it’s important to know that housing will be an expense during the divorce. If you remain in the home, you’ll still need to cover the mortgage payments. If you move out, you’ll need to pay rent in another location. And if you decide to sell, you’ll have the cost of selling the home. Either way, it will be a big adjustment for you to consider.

General Expenses

When you were married, you had a shared income that allowed you to live a certain lifestyle. When you get divorced, this income is now cut in half, and each person will be forced to adjust their lifestyle to accommodate your new budget. This means you may need to make necessary changes, such as trading in a luxury vehicle for one that’s more affordable or quitting that prime gym membership.

Divorce will certainly make an impact on your finances, but if you can at least be semi-prepared for what to expect, you’ll at least be in a better situation.

 

 


13
Jul 18

6 Mistakes to Avoid During a Legal Separation

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6 Mistakes to Avoid During a Legal Separation

Before opting for a full-fledged divorce, some couples decide instead to do a legal separation. What this means is that you have filed your separation with the courts to make it legal, but you are also still legally married. For some people, legal separation is exactly what you need to work on your marriage and take the steps necessary to salvage your relationship. However, for others, this legal separation forces you to lean that the marriage cannot be saved, and the divorce becomes inevitable. If you are currently undergoing a legal separation, here are six mistakes you must avoid.

 

Mistake #1: Keeping joint accounts.

Even if you hope your marriage ends up working out, it’s still important for the two of you to be individuals, and this means handling your own money. If you have joint accounts, you make it easier for one of you to do something stupid that cannot be undone and bring more harm than good to the relationship. As soon as you decide to do a legal separation, be sure to close all joint accounts and instead open individual ones.

 

Mistake #2: Not following the terms of the agreement.

During a legal separation, a lawyer or legal aid will write up a separation agreement for the two of you to follow. This document will spell out all the rules you and your spouse need to follow while you are separated. If you break any of these rules, you could find yourself facing serious consequences or putting yourself in a bad financial situation. Instead of taking that risk, just make sure to adhere to the agreement.

 

Mistake #3: Overspending.

While you’re on your own, it may be exciting to want to spend a little bit of money on yourself. While you most certainly deserve it, overspending is not a good idea, especially right now. For instance, if you do end up getting divorced and this big purchase or lavish vacation shows up on your financial history, your ex could accuse you of spending marital assets in a selfish way, and this means you could end up having to somehow put that money back. If you really want to overspend on something, wait until after you have salvaged your marriage or finalized the divorce.

 

Mistake #4: Oversharing.

Today’s plethora of technology makes it easy for you to share your feelings and life story with people you haven’t seen face to face in years (or ever). However, airing your dirty laundry on social media could come back to bite you in the butt. First, your private life is nobody’s business but your own. Second, any of this information is now public, and you need to be aware that anything you say could come back and be used against you during a divorce proceeding.

 

Mistake #5: Getting into a new relationship.

Your legal separation is a time where you’re supposed to be focusing on the future of your current relationship, not starting a new one. It is not a smart idea for you to start a new relationship during this time, especially if there is any small chance your marriage could  be salvaged.

 

Mistake #6: Not being realistic.

As mentioned above, some people can get back together after a legal separation and some can’t. However, what you need to do is just be realistic about your situation and decide on the outcome that must be made. For instance, if you and your spouse are getting along and things are looking up, then maybe you get back together. If neither of you can stand the sight of one another, then it’s best to file for divorce.

 

A legal separation is a good way to make the right final decision on your marriage, but it’s very important you don’t make any of these mistakes while it’s happening.


11
Jun 18

How To Financially Protect Yourself During Divorce

Filing for Divorce

Financial Protection During Divorce

While it may seem stressful at the time, doing it will keep you financially stable during the divorce proceedings.

Have a prenuptial agreement.

The best way to protection your finances during a divorce is to have a prenuptial agreement signed before you get married. For many people, this is a very hard and awkward conversation to have, but if each person is coming from a different financial background, it’s often a necessity. However, if you didn’t have a prenuptial agreement signed, you’re not completely out of luck in the finance protection department.

Cancel joint checking accounts.

If you have a joint checking account, the first thing you should do is cancel the joint account and open up separate checking accounts. Be sure to have your paychecks and any other additional income sources rerouted to the new bank account. If you have money in a joint savings account, the courts will usually put this money on hold until your assets have been determined and split appropriately, or that money will be placed in escrow and used to continue paying joint bills (such as home utility bills or debts).

Cancel joint credit cards.

If you have joint credit cards, it’s also important to cancel these and have individual accounts opened for each of you. This way, your ex cannot spend money on your card and expect you to pay the bill. Keep in mind that if there is a hefty balance to a credit card, it may be impossible for you to close the account until the divorce is finalized. If this is the case, ask the credit card company to put a freeze on the account until the divorce has gone through.

Change names on important documents.

After your divorce has been finalized and your assets have been legally divided by the courts, you need to ensure you change names on any important documents. For instance, be sure to change the name on house deeds or car titles. You’ll also want to go through and make adjustments to the beneficiaries listed on your retirement plans, life insurance policies, wills, and other investment accounts you may have. The last thing you need is for your ex to benefit off of anything happening to you because you forgot to make the necessary adjustment to these documents.

 

Make smart financial decisions.

Your divorce will be a lifestyle change, and it’s important for you to make smart financial decisions during and after your divorce. For instance, if you and your ex are trying to sell your home, it may be a better idea for you to stay with family until the divorce has been finalized. Otherwise you could end up spending money on the current home you’re trying to sell as well as a new place, and that’s hard to do on one income. In addition, you may want to consider downsizing since you’ll only have one income going forward. Be sure to take a hard look at your own individual finances and create a budget that works best for you.

Check your credit report.

During and after the divorce, be sure to check your credit report often to ensure your ex didn’t incur any debt in your name. While you would hope this wouldn’t happen, it occurs more often than not in some situations. However, keeping an eye on your report allows you to stop an error before it spreads into something much more expensive. Using tools like Credit Sesame to alert you to credit changes can help make this task easier on you.

Getting divorced is expensive, but if you know how to plan ahead, you can keep yourself protected from a bad financial situation.

 


30
Apr 18

What’s the Difference Between Legal Separation and Divorce?

Legal Separation or Divorce?

Legal Separation or Divorce?

When facing trouble in your marriage, couples typically have two options: legal separation or divorce. However, these two things are actually very similar yet very different, and it can confuse some people. In the eyes of the law, the difference between legal separation and divorce is that with legal separation, you and your spouse are living apart but still married, while with a divorce your marriage is legally over. There are other factors to consider when determining if legal separation or divorce is the right option for you and your spouse.

 

Separation vs Divorce

Legal separation is less final than a divorce. Most couples who are trying to decide if their marriage is salvageable often opt for legal separation first. This gives you time to live apart yet still work on the things that are important for you. During a legal separation, you will file this with the courts, and the courts will decide on important factors for you, such as child support, custody arrangements, division or marital assets, etc.

 

During your legal separation, you and your spouse must live in separate homes. However, during this time, you are still legally married, and neither of you are allowed to get remarried or commit adultery. Should either of you do, you could be at fault of breaking the terms of the legal separation agreement, which could negatively affect you.

 

In order to receive a legal separation, neither party must be at fault for committing adultery or for abandonment. If this is the case in your relationship, the court may not allow you to file for a legal separation.

 

Should you and your spouse decide to divorce after the legal separation, all of the details determined during the separation (child support, custody, etc.) will usually just remain the same during the divorce proceedings. This usually allows the divorce to take place in a more expedited fashion and makes it easier on all those involved.

 

Divorce, on the other end, is a legal separation of your marriage, which means the relationship is officially over. During a divorce, all your assets must be divided, and the court will also decide on child custody, child support, etc., if it has yet to be determined. Once your divorce is finalized, you are allowed to legally remarry, and a divorce is allowed by the courts even if abandonment or adultery is committed by you or your spouse.

 

Benefits of Legal Separation

Although choosing legal separation or divorce is a very tough decision to make, there are some benefits of choosing legal separation vs divorce:

  • It gives you time to work on your marriage: Sometimes couples face problems that need to be worked on, and a legal separation allows you to work on those issues while still having your time apart. In some cases, couples who are legally separated work through their issues and end up getting back together and saving the marriage.
  • It gives you time to think: The hardest part about getting divorced is the major change it brings to your life, such as living alone and being financially independent. For some people, this time apart allows you to think about what you really want, how you’re feeling, and to see if salvaging the marriage or divorce is the better option.
  • It can be less stressful: Legal separation can be stressful, but some people find that it’s often less stressful than actually getting divorced. Especially if you decide to end the marriage down the road, being legally separated first allows you to have most of the important issues determined ahead of time.
  • Easier on the children: If you have children, it may behoove you to give your marriage a fighting chance for the sake of the kids. That is if you can work on establishing a peaceful marriage. One of the main battles in any divorce is the child custody part. During a separation, you can test out different child custody arrangements should you eventually get divorced.

If you and your spouse are facing some serious issues, it’s time for you to decide if legal separation or divorce is the right option for you.


21
Mar 18

When You Know You’re Filing for Divorce

Filing for Divorce

Divorce decree, gavel and folder shot on warm wooden surface

Sometimes your relationship gets to the point where divorce is the only solution. When this occurs, you need to ensure you’re prepared for what’s to come before you actual file the paperwork. That’s because divorce can be a very lengthy, emotional, and stressful process, and if you’re not completely prepared from the beginning, it could take a toll on how the rest of it is handled. When you do the following, it can help you be more prepared for what’s to come.

 

Be sure about your decision.

The last thing you want to do is tell your spouse that you want a divorce when deep down you really don’t. Before you start planning for your divorce, it’s important to make sure this is exactly what you want. Be sure to try talking with your spouse first about your feelings to see if your unhappiness is something you can work on. You should also try couple’s counseling and see if a professional can help you work out your differences. If you find that all of this doesn’t change the way you feel, then you’ll know you’re making the right choice.

 

Have your finances in order.

If you and your spouse share money, you’ll want to ensure you have finances set up for yourself. Divorce can be very expensive on its own, but you’ll also need money to cover your living expenses going forward. While you don’t want to start stealing money from your joint account, you do want to be prepared with what you can. Open a checking or savings account in your name only, or open some credit cards in your name only. This way, you’ll have access to finances if your joint account becomes frozen during the divorce proceedings.

 

Know where you’ll go.

When you and your spouse live comfortably in your home, divorce will make one of you need to leave. Deciding who will need to find another place to live isn’t always easy, and if you’re the one willing to leave, then you need to be prepared with where to go. This is when it’s important to either have another place of your own ready, or when you need to get family or friends involved as a temporary place to go. If you are the one asking for divorce, it may be better for you to line this place up ahead of time so that it doesn’t become awkward when you tell your spouse it’s over.

 

Keep calm and collected.

Divorce can be stressful, and it can take a toll on your personal and professional career. If your divorce is coming out of the blue to your spouse, then you can expect some type of drama to occur. While you may want to give into the drama, it’s important that you don’t. Not only do you need to stay calm and collected, but you need to be mindful of how you act and what you say, as all of this can come back to haunt you when the divorce proceedings occur.

 

Even if your decision for divorce seems to come out of the blue, it’s extremely important that you use this information to be prepared for what will come.


13
Feb 18

How to Prepare for Mediation

Mediation has become a popular way for couples to handle their divorce, as it’s typically less expensive, faster, and less stressful. However, although preferred, mediation does require you to be prepared for the meetings; otherwise, it could extend how long the mediation takes to complete. If you’re not sure what you must prepare for, the following information will help you determine how to be ready for mediation.

 

Gather information.

The first thing you must do to prepare for mediation is to gather your facts and documents and have them ready. Your mediation can discuss anything from financials to child custody, so be sure you have everything you need to cover any topic. Have bank records, pay stubs, bill statements, and anything your mediator suggests to help you move the mediation along. All of these documents can help you prove your side and help the mediator come up with the best resolution for the items at stake.

 

Be organized.

Once you have all your information and documentation handy, you want to be sure it’s organized in a way that’s easy to understand. In order to keep your mediation running smoothly, you’ll want to move things along as best as you can. If your items are organized, you’ll be able to present your side and offer factual proof when needed. If you’re not organized, it will not only delay the meeting, but can also make you appear irresponsible, which can affect the outcome of the mediation.

 

Follow the rules.

Before your mediation begins, your mediator will likely have paperwork for you to fill out and information to provide. Be sure to follow these rules and stick to the timelines associated with these rules in order to ensure your mediation goes smoothly. If you fail to meet deadlines or provide all necessary information, it will simply prolong the event and can even make your ex frustrated to the point mediation simply won’t work for you.

 

Know what you want.

In addition to having your documents ready, it’s important for you to have an idea about what you want out of the mediation. For instance, if you want to keep certain items, then be sure you have these items listed so you can fight for them when it comes time to discuss them. Having some ideas on paper before the mediation can keep you on track.

 

Know how to compromise.

Being hard-headed isn’t going to get you anywhere, so you better know how to compromise. For instance, if there’s something you really want out of the mediation, then you better have something you’re willing to give up. It’s not fair for one person to walk away from the mediation with everything while the other has nothing, so finding the way to compromise can keep the mediation speedy and amicable for everyone involved.

 

Expect the unexpected.

You may have an idea of what’s going to happen or how your ex will behave, but anything can happen, and you may find yourself dealing with a situation you weren’t prepared for. Keep in mind that anything can come up during these meetings, so be sure to think about the situation and have an answer or solution to anything you think could occur.

 

Suppress your emotions.

Although going through mediation is easier than divorce, it’s still difficult to do. While you may want to share your feelings, it’s not a smart idea. Instead, you want to suppress your emotions and think and act rationally during this event. Doing so will not only keep the mediation smooth, but will help each of you walk away with what you want.

Mediation can be extremely beneficial to many couples, so be sure to use these tips to prepare yourself for what’s to come.

 

 


09
Feb 18

6 Ways to Help Manage Your Child’s Behavior During a Divorce

It can be heartbreaking to tell your kids that you’re getting a divorce. Having to deal with your child’s anger and sadness during the separation can be even more of a challenge. But in order to garner respect and positivity, both parents need to set a good example by being the best role models throughout the ordeal. The following are helpful ideas on how to best manage your child’s behavior.

Set the Same Rules at Both Households

No matter what age, your children can be strong-willed and test your patience. If you’re going through a divorce, you may notice their behavior is especially trying. If you’re living in separate residences, your children’s parental time may be divided within two households now that you’ve filed for divorce. Although you may feel bad about putting them through this upheaval, you don’t want to give them free reign. If you’ve set rules before the divorce, they need to be the same and in both households. Sit down with your ex and discuss the importance of enforcing the guidelines. If they disobey them, be unified in the repercussions such as grounding a teen for coming home late or no T.V. for poor grades.

Maintain Some Semblance of Normalcy

According to the National Family Solutions, an affordable family advocacy service, divorce can be an emotional roller coaster. That’s why it’s beneficial to have someone knowledgeable and trustworthy in your corner to assist you through this difficult ordeal. It can be also be hard on your children, so you want to find ways to remain tied to a normal schedule as much as possible. Sit your child down in advance and go over the schedule for the week. If there are activities they normally attend, do your best to ensure that they participate. Stay diligent with their studies to ensure that their grades don’t suffer. If the family gathers for dinner each evening, continue the tradition in each household. Vacations, birthdays and holidays may be also different. But you can help your child by pointing out the positives in celebrating events twice and with each parent.

Resist the Urge to Spoil Your Kids

You may have the urge to spoil your children for the demise of your marriage. But you can keep your kids from acting out by not letting the guilt overcome your parenting skills. If you overindulge by letting them do what they want and have their hearts desire, you’re going to raise out-of-control kids. Talk to your ex and set up the same parameters at both households. If there are to be large purchases, it needs to go through both parents such as a car, laptop and phone. While a child may enjoy the splurges, they’ll appreciate the value of things and limits their parents set in the long run.

Separate Your Feelings

You may harbor a lot of animosity toward your soon-to-be ex. But your children don’t need to know the intimate details of your break up. Instead of telling them about their lying, cheating and deceitful ways, find ways to separate your feelings. Remain respectful of your ex during and after the divorce. If your partner was that bad of a person, they’ll find out on their own. Children are perceptive, and they may already have an idea of the events that led to your divorce filings. If you’re the bigger person who plays fairly, your kids are going to have a better chance of adopting the same attitude. They may even take that positivity and respectfulness and use it in their own situations later in life.

Re-evaluate Your Parenting Skills

A divorce is a life-altering change. While you may want to co-parent similar to the way you did in the past, it’s normal to make changes. If you didn’t agree to your partner’s parenting skills, it’s ok to re-evaluate them. Talk to your ex to work toward changes in an amicable and respectful manner. Because your kids are going through enough at the initial stage of the divorce, you don’t want to change too many rules all at once.

Look for Signs of Stress and Anxiety

Divorce can be an emotional experience for each member of the family. If your kids are sad or angry about the separation, they may express their emotions in a variety of ways. You can be a proactive parent during the divorce by opening your eyes to the smallest of changes such as acting out at school, lack of motivation in social activities, poor grades, and change in sleep patterns and becoming more fearful. If you’re on speaking terms, both parents need to discuss the symptoms with your child. If they don’t feel comfortable talking to you, enlist the help of a therapist who can help them deal with their feelings.

While the divorce may be a refreshing change for you, your child may react negatively to the disruption. The above strategies can be helpful when avoiding changes in your child’s behavior over the divorce. They may also offer ways for you to cultivate a more loving relationship in the future with your kids.

For more information, please visit www.NationalFamilySolutions.net.


28
Dec 17

What to do if you can’t afford an attorney

There may come a time when you’re in need of an attorney, but with the high cost associated with reputable lawyers, it’s often difficult to pay for one. If you’re stuck in a poor financial situation, you may be unable to afford an attorney out of pocket, and this could be detrimental to your legal needs. However, that doesn’t mean you’re out of luck. Below are a few great options for you to consider when you cannot afford an attorney on your own.

 

Look for free legal aid.

The US government knows that having access to a lawyer is important, which is why there are plenty of governments and organizations dedicated to providing legal services to low-income individuals or families. Reach out to any organizations near you to see if they’d be willing to take your case. Most of them will at least offer a consultation, so you can find out what your next steps should be.

 

Try a law school.

There is a decent amount of people in law school looking to practice their skills, and many law students are able to practice in a court under the supervision of a real lawyer. These schools often have programs to help those in need, so contact a local law school and see if they have any programs that could use your case. If so, you may be able to get free legal services just by helping the students learn a real-life experience.

 

Look for pro bono attorneys.

Oftentimes attorneys offer pro bono cases a few times a year. There are multiple reasons why these attorneys do this, so it’s important to look for those who do more than one per year. Do a little research online to find some recommendations, and then contact these places to see if you can get some work done for nothing. Be sure to also look for a pro bono attorney who works on the cases you need. For instance, if you’re in need of child custody attorney, be sure you’re looking for a pro bono attorney who specializes in that specific area.

 

Try to represent yourself.

The legal system gives you the option of having a lawyer represent your or representing yourself. Obviously, this will not cost you any money to do, but you will need opt familiarize yourself with the way the court runs as well as the different laws needed in your case. The court will give you some leeway, but you’ll still need to keep the events moving forward at a steady pace. If you choose this option, National Family Solutions can help you.

 

Opt for an alternative method.

Sometimes you may not actually need to go to court. Depending on the reason for your legal needs, you may be able to find a different way to solve your problems. For instance, if you are in the middle of a custody battle, you could opt for mediation instead of going to court. This lets you and your spouse work things out with a legal professional without having to pay court fees and spend a long time getting it accomplished. Chances are there will be fees associated with this, but it likely will not cost nearly as much as paying out of pocket for a real legal team.

Having to deal with the law can be stressful, and the last thing you need is the burden of paying for an attorney if you simply don’t have the money. However, if you use these suggestions, you may be able to find the legal services you need without breaking the bank.


26
Jul 16

Using Email to Create a Custody Log for Record Keeping

One of the most crucial pieces of evidence that you can use in court is a parenting log, also called a custody log.  This log will show times that custodial and non-custodial parents have children as well as when they do not take advantage of their time with the children.    There are many things that you should note in a custody journal and keeping one through email is a great way to easily be able to update the journal through texts or emails at the time of drop offs or pick-ups.

 How to Use Email to Create a Custody Log

The first thing that you will want to do if you are going to use email as a custody log is create a new email account that is only used for this purpose.  Each time that your child is picked up or dropped off with the other parent, make sure that you send an email to the account with a text message.  This is simple and easy and gives you a record that is time and date stamped.

Another thing that you will want to do is make notes in the texts or actually send emails if you need longer notes for different things that occur during times that your child’s other parent has them.  Make note of your child’s behavior, their moods, and the things that they say in the email.  You should also be sure to point out when the other parent is late with pick-ups or drop offs.  You can make note of when they were supposed to pick up and missed visits or canceled them.  It’s also a great way to keep track of communication about trading visits or working something out.  You can simply copy and paste your ex’s texts or take screen shots of them and email these to the account.  This way you always have the ability to look something up when you need to.

In addition to these things, you can keep record of communication that you have with the other parent, information about medical appointments or school issues, and even help keep track of milestones and developments for your child.  In addition, make sure that you keep track of issues that you want to discuss with your child’s other parent or information that you want to make sure that you relate to them.  You can even have the other parent create their own journal email so that you can email these issues back and forth between the two of you with a clear record of when you are notifying them and what they choose to do with said information.

This email is a great way to keep track of everything that you want to remember about your child.  It is also a clear record that you can use in court if questions arise with how one of you are taking care of your child or communicating with one another.  If you have a clear email chain, the other parent cannot deny receiving important information or being told about something that was important.

 How the Email Journal Can Be Used in Court

It is easy to print emails.  One of the things that you can do before you go to court is print all of the emails that you have saved as well as all of the information that was shared between the two parents.  This is a great way to keep details of everything that you have been involved in.

 Reasons You Should Maintain Custody Journal

If disputes occur in court, as they often do, having a journal that is time stamped and has all of the information in it can help to prove that what you are saying is true.  You can’t change the time on an email to suit your needs so it’s important that you are sending these emails as they occur.  In addition, it can help you to show that you are doing the things that you agreed to and whether or not the child’s time with the other parent is interfering with their behaviors or education in any way.  In addition, it can help you to provide information that can help set up a more appropriate child custody schedule should things need to be changed.

Plus, if you are recording important milestones, information about school and activities, or other information that needs to be shared with your child’s other parents then it is going to help to show that you are following through with your effort to provide good communication.   Your ex won’t be able to deny that they did certain things or that they were not notified of something if you have a clear record that shows that they were.  Having a journal also helps give you peace of mind that you are not going to have to provide information or proof to a judge in the future should there be any issues, everything will be contained in one neat and tidy place that is easy for your to access.