Going through a custody battle or divorce is never easy. Even if you and your ex have your child’s best interests in mind, there could still be a plethora of arguments and disagreements. No parent wants to lose custody of their child, but every situation is different, and it’s important to have a parenting log to prove your side when you go to court.
Your parenting log should contain any information that will help you make a case for yourself when it comes to court. For example, you could write down dates of visitation for you and your ex. You could write down how much child support was paid and when it was paid. You could write down the items you paid for or bought for your child, such as tuition, school clothes, doctor visits, etc. You could also write down any issues with the ex, whether your own issues or issues your child has brought up. You can also include missed visitation dates or times that your Ex refused visitation. All these incidents could possibly be brought up in court should your attorney or document prepare decide to use it.
Along with just writing down your notes, you’ll want to include as much proof as you possibly can. For example, if you and your ex talk via text message or email, save any texts or emails that are proof to any of your documentation. This way, you have proof of what your ex said and it’s not just hearsay. If you have notes from your child’s teacher that discuss your child’s feelings toward your ex, you can also save those too. The more documentation you have, the better your parenting log will be.
In most cases, a judge is not going to personally look through your parenting log, which is why many parents often wonder if it’s even a good idea to keep one. Even though the judge will not look through it, a parenting log is a great idea for the following reasons.
It gives you proof during court proceedings.
Although the judge will not look at your parenting log, your attorney will, and this can help you make a case for yourself when it comes to court. For example, if you have sole custody of your child and your ex hasn’t paid you child support, you can use the info from your parenting log as proof to your attorney who can use this information during court to force your ex to pay you.
You can also use the parenting log if you’re not the parent with sole custody. For example, if your ex has sole custody of your child, but you see your child more often than every other weekend and pick up the tab for more items outside of your child support, you could use this information to petition for joint custody. Your attorney can use this information to prove that you deserve to have joint custody of your child, and it could help you win your case.
It provides proof after your child turns 18.
Sometimes a custody battle can continue even after your child has turned 18. For example, if you paid your ex in cash, and they’re a money-hungry troll, they may take you to court and say that you owe them back child support. However, your parenting log can provide proof that payment was made, which can help you.
It can help your child.
Sometimes, a child may decide that they want to live with the noncustodial parent. In most cases, the custodial parent will do everything they can to prevent this from happening. If you are ever in this situation, you can use your parenting log to help your child. If you’re the noncustodial parent, you can use your log to prove why your child should live with you. If you are the custodial parent and you truly believe your child is making a big mistake, you can use your parenting log to prove why.
No matter your situation, a parenting log is there to help provide proof and documentation of your parenting and your ex’s participation with your child.